There’s a VEEERY interesting concept I came across a few years ago, which is at the basis of my success with women… or with anything else for that matter.
Grab yourself a cup of coffee because this article is extremely important and with deep consequences for your love life.
Today we’re taking a break from finding ways to get into women’s panties to take a trip deep down in our subconscious. We’re gonna talk about a concept called “flow”.
There is no clear definition of what flow is (or isn’t) but I’m willing to bet you’ve experienced it more than once in your life. Maybe several times. Flux is all about those moments where you’re in some sort of a productive euphoria, when no objective is too hard to reach.
You’ve probably heard this a lot of times:
Make her laugh. Women love to laugh!
I also bet you’ve heard this a few times as well:
Dude, I’m not making any girl laugh. I’m no clown. I’m a real man, being authentic and upfront about sex is what gets them into bed.
There’s a lot of CONFUSION on whether humor works with girls or not, and I’m here to set things straight.
People who are usually in favor or against this or that way of getting girls usually see the world only through their own eyes. If they’re not naturally funny, they assume everyone should be like them and focus on THEIR strengths in order to game chicks.
Well, guess what? THEIR strengths aren’t necessarily YOUR strengths.
To this day I can still remember back when I was really, really shy. The emotions I would feel when someone (not just girls) would talk to me are still alive and kicking inside me, even though it’s been years since I’m in full control of my self-esteem.
D’you know how many seconds would my self esteem last when someone would approach me about… anything? Half a second on average. The moment they started talking to me, they would be in full control of the conversation and, essentially, me.
The only time I felt in control was when I was alone… I had no exterior factor to burst my little bubble and I was happy.
Pathetic, right? Even though I was king of the hill when I was alone playing on my computer or listening to music, I knew I had a problem. The only thing was, I had no idea how to fix it.
We know so much about women and yet,
the closest we got to knowing what women want is…
Kind of vague, isn’t it?
Dating gurus are fighting to demystify it
and they still haven’t reached a common agreement.
And I get that. But here’s what I don’t get.
Value can mean different things to different girls.
Why would one think that being funny and challenging
is all it takes to build value?
Value is not just something you bring
to the table in the moment, guys.
Ever thought about building long-term value?
You know, for long-term relationships.
(Read, long-term fvck buddy…)
I’m gonna explain what I mean in a minute
but first, let me
Here’s the death trap of building value…
Most guys think that the only way to building value
is by putting a lot of energy into being fun and challenging…
Dude, you will not believe what a friend of mine
did to completely absorb 2 girls in a conversation…
This is so badass I just had to write you about it.
OK, so get this. I was out with a couple of buddies
drinking and having fun, then decided to meet up
with a couple of other friends of mine…
Only thing was, they also had a couple of girls with them.
Nothing strange so far, right?
So I go and meet them at this really unique place
where you’re suppose to take your shoes off…
A mostly dark place full of rugs, pillows,
candles and Bob Marley music. Really chill.
(By the way, if you want to completely
disarm a woman’s resistance to sex
you should definitely take her to a place like this).
I have a confession to make: I couldn’t care less about celebrities and popularity in general. In fact, I’m somewhat against it.
Whenever I meet someone who’s popular, I’m treating them like I would any other person (I’ll explain why in a moment), and they seem somewhat disturbed by this.
What? This guy sin’t giving me the power I deserve?
They seem intrigued and automatically recognize me as someone with AT LEAST as much power as they have. And this – you guessed it – automatically raises MY status.
David DeAngelo calls this “not giving your power away”.
And why should we? What have THEY done for me to deserve my full attention?
You see, whenever I meet someone (old or new acquaintance), they start from point zero. It doesn’t matter who they are. If we get along, I give them more attention as we start to become friends. If we don’t, I ignore them.
I figured that, since I’m answering questions over e-mail to my customers, I could help others who didn’t (yet) purchase by making my answers public… well, some of them.
Here’s what one happy customer writes:
I want you to give me 2 openers which I can use every time. One “direct neutral” and one
Let me give you the types of situations where I need a conversation starter:
1. I am in out shopping/in a mall/ in a library
2. Walking on street
3. Waiting at a bus stop or travelling next with someone I want to approach
When you give me openers please understand women here are shit scared of strangers approaching
them be it day or night. So when you suggest openers please remember I must not come across
creepy, awkward/ needy or desperate/shady.
Why do we delay to try things that others swear they work for years and years? We end up banging our heads against the wall for not doing it sooner and for losing dozens and dozens of good interactions with girls.
Because the lollipop… it’s just one of those things that gets women to approach you. Here’s what happened.
A couple of nights ago I went out with this new friend of mine that I made in the club (friend of a friend of a friend). We go to a nearby store and he buys a lollipop. I figured it was a little too much, but then he went on to tell me how a lot of girls will just try and pull it out of his mouth.
Ok, so I used the word “shitty” right in the darn title of this article. Big deal. I have a reason for it.
Here it is: I used to SUCK with girls to the point that I would get super nervous when I knew an interaction was inevitable.
And now? I just got called by a 3rd dude today specifically for my talents with getting girls. I may not be the best but know my stuff. I got rid of those shitty problems and I want the same for you in this article.
The reason you have them is because you can’t put a name to them. You can’t express them in words. I’m not only gonna do that, but I’m also gonna spoonfeed you the solution.
Issue #1: She don’t want no short dick man
Girls are riddles. No matter how well you think you know one, the other one is completely different. And I’m not talking about just personality and looks here. Even some of the things that are straightforward with guys are different from girl to girl.
Touching them and getting them horny is a never-ending challenge, that up until now was overcome only by the most experienced of men. For the rest of us, it was a series of never ending awkwardness.
Things are about to change. Science, once again, comes to our aid.
Are you familiar with the hormone called oxytocin? To put it simple, oxytocin sends a rush of testosterone through a girl’s body, similar to when she’s at the gym lifting weights.
But for this to happen, she needs to feel attraction for you and be comfortable with your around her. Otherwise this will NOT work.