To stand the test of time as a dating guru, beyond all those techniques, tips and tactics, you have to have real game.
Carlos is one of those guys. He’s one of the gurus that started teaching dating and seduction before the community exploded.
Sure enough, he stood the test of time. He became featured on some huge websites, publications, as well as on TV: FHM, AskMen.com, Playboy Radio, Sex With Emily, David DeAngelo’s Interviews With Dating Gurus, World Talk Radio, and ABC 7 in San Francisco.
You will learn more in one night of real life approaching than you will in a month of reading about it…
– Carlos Xuma
Carlos authored a few amazing products that still sell like hotcakes, years after their release:
Regardless of how much online dating advanced over the past few years (particularly with the rise of Facebook), meeting women face to face is still manly and cool. Right now I do a combination of both but, if I had to choose between the online and offline, I’d be every night in bars and clubs.
So. A step by step guide to meeting women in bars. I don’t want you thinking that these steps are so rigid that you have to use them on every interaction. Quite the opposite.
Meeting women in bars is something extremely fluid and requires a lot of improvisation. But it’s not as hard as you think. So let’s take it one step at a time.
Step 1: Getting into the mood
“Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them.”
― Henry David Thoreau, Civil Disobedience and Other Essays
Let me get one thing straight: in this life… ultimately… we are all alone.
Nobody really really really cares about us more than we do. And no one will lift more than a finger to help us. Sure, your friends and family are there for you when you need them…
but they can’t sacrifice their entire lives to get you to where you ultimately want to go.
They don’t owe you anything.
Your country doesn’t owe you anything.
You are all alone and no one’s gonna hear your cry for help.
More women? A better job? More money?
Stand in line, sir, we all want that. You’re not more special that the guy next to you.
I bet that right now you’re way in your comfort zone reading the. You’re probably saying to yourself you can conquer the world.
It’s easy to be tough when you’re behind a computer screen, isn’t it? You can imagine yourself to be anything you like. You can read up on your self-develop literature to give you that temporary self-confidence boost.
Guess what: that fake confidence only works when you’re all alone behind the 4 walls of your room. Once you get out there, into the real life, it all changes.
You start displaying your old behaviors. You fail. And then you come up with excuses.
After all, your ego needs protection, doesn’t it?
Let me tell you something: your ego needs a beating. It needs to get out of that stupid comfort zone and into the real world… where it’s every man for himself.
I‘m shocked. There’s an epidemic of “get laid quick” products out there that have literally flooded the Internet.
One promises you to get laid within the hour.
Another raises the bar to 10 minutes.
Yet another one promises you can get any girl horny in 10 seconds.
Where will this end?
If you’ve been dating for some time now, you know very well how things go. It’s very rare to take a girl back to your place so fast. And she’s usually not the one you want to end up with.
But these types of products are in the grey area, and I want to do something about it.
First off: I want to set the records straight. No, there are not men out there who can get any girl in 10 minutes or less. Some of them can, but that doesn’t happen very often. Plus, these guys have it all, including game.
A lot of guys screw most of the interactions they have on Facebook when they write their very first message. Ask any hot girl and she will tell you.
Her inbox is flooded with chody messages she doesn’t even read.
Come on, admit it. Most of the messages you yourself send remain unanswered. Now you know why.
But what about the solution? How can you get girl living dozens or even hundreds of miles away to be interested in you in a sexual way?
Let me tell you how I do it.
Rule number one is that I don’t rush to send them private messages… Not yet at least. In fact, my goal is to get THEM to message me first. This will subconsciously get them to think that they want me more than I want them.