At least that’s what a study made by the Journal of Sex Research reveals. It’s natural if you ask me, chasing quick sex past a certain level is steering you away form the mature man you want to become.
It all makes sense now. The need for sex hide beneath it far more deeper problems. The fact of the matter is, no matter how much of a player a guy is, he just wants to be loved. To have a careful, sensitive, good looking woman in his life who wants him for who he is.
I’m all for casual sex as long as you don’t make that your live’s purpose. But if you have done this mistake, it’s time you and I had a chat.
Look, I’m getting near my thirties and, although I’m getting my fair share of sex, I’m starting to look for something more serious. I still want casual sex until I find someone, but somewhere deep inside of me, I know there’s more to life than just sex.
If you’ve been chasing sex like crazy for a while, I strongly suggest you STOP. At least for a little while. Get into a relationship, see what that’s like.
You have to learnt o be a good faithful guy NOW… because if you don’t… if you fall down the path of casual sex and you stay at it for years and years… it’s gonna be almost impossible for you to find a decent girlfriend… and guess what that will do to you?
That’s right. It’s gonna increase your levels of anxiety and depression.
No matter how you look at it, staying into one extreme for too long will increase these two puppies. That’s why BALANCE is key.
Reading some of the articles discussing this study, I realized most of them suggest that you never chase one night stands. I’ve sen guys who never did this and guess what? Whenever they see a guy screwing how women, their levels of anxiety and depression increase. They too wish they could be with other women to see what it’s like.
Don’t be the sex addicted guy and don’t be the “one girlfriend and I’m married guy”. They both stink. Be a real, mature man, who likes to experiment but who also wants more from life.
Here’s what I want you to do.
Step 1: Count the number of girls you’ve had casual sex with until now
Step 2: Count the number of medium and long-term relationships you’ve been been in so far.
Step 3: If the number of one night stands is 3 times as big as the number of relationships… you know what to do:
Stop chasing sex and start to think about relationships for a while. You can’t just wait for the perfect girl to land on your lap. You have to know what you want and you have to be the guy you have to be in order to attract that particular type of girl.
It’s not hard, it just takes practice. Like with everything else,