From Texting to The First Date

texting a girl

OK, so you’re getting good at texting girls. Your phone is literally a magnet that gets women into the comfort zone. You’re IN.

But here’s what happens. Once you start texting back and forth, she’ll soon become some comfortable with this that she won’t FEEL the NEED to SEE you. You’ve just become text buddies.

Well, that sucks! … This is THE friends zone of texting.

We know about the “friends zone” problem ,right? And we know what the solution is: to prevent it from happening.

Text friends zone is much worse that just friends zone… because you don’t even get to see her. She can’t see you, you can’t make any moves and she doesn’t even have to respond to your texts.

The mindset of winning at text game is to always try to get her on the first date. You’re not texting just for the fun of it (although it SHOULD be fun), you should always be thinking how to get to the next level.

So after you’ve engaged her in a conversation, you should start measuring her pulse. Here’s what I mean by that.

After each SMS you receive from her, give her a grade from 1 to 10. 1 means she has no desire whatsoever to meet with you. 10 means she’s ready.

The goal is to get her to at least an 8 or a 9. You could get a *yes* even if she’s a 7 but she might just cancel the date. That happened to all of us, right? 🙂

Think of this as turning her on, only not for sex, but for a date. This way I can assure you you won’t fall into the trap of sending dozens of messages back and forth until she stops responding at some point.

The best way to make her want to see you in person is to make it seem natural. And the best way to do that is – you guessed it – future projections.

Once the chit-chat is on, you just need to find the right moment to put an image of the 2 of you seeing each other. You both know that’s why you’re texting, she knows you’re gonna pop the question at some point.

Examples:

Yeah, you’re saying that now but I bet you wouldn’t have the guts to tell it to me face to face. 🙂

Yeah, it’s an awesome and long story. I’ll tell it to you when we meet.

That old place is actually pretty cool on the inside. That’s where I usually go on first dates…

Notice how you’re not implying that you’re anxious to see her. You just want to see how she responds to it and make her imagine the 2 of you together. This doesn’t mean you can’t pop the question very soon, though.

It all depends on her temperature. If she responds to the texts above in a positive way, she’s a 7. That means you can try to pop the question about meeting each other or wait a little longer.

Good things come to those who wait. If you get her to an 8, she’ll actually say things like I really like guys who have quality X (which is obvious you have.

She won’t directly ask you out but she will imply that she’s interested in getting to know you. She knows she can’t seem to anxious so, the minute she give you a compliment, respond back with something and, soon after, ask her to meet.

OK, now to the actual question. How do you ask her out?

Well, there’s 2 ways to go about this. You can either call or you can just go from text to face-to-face meet-up. The way to approach this, given that she’s interested, is to be direct.

There is no way you can ask a woman out indirectly… so just go ahead and do it.

Simplicity is key here, as long as you don’t come across as to anxious. Remember that she doesn’t know you so you’re not a priority to her. Making her laugh or talking about sex doesn’t mean squat.

So if she says OK, but I’m busy this week, you need to show her you’re in no hurry… but also show her that you don’t like girls who flake. When a girl flakes she just trying to test you to see how anxious you are to get into her panties.

Do NOT fall into that trap!

If she’s busy, she’s busy. One thing you might do at this point is to simply STOP TEXTING her and resume the conversation after a day or 2, like nothing happened.

Have fun!

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